This is my mom. The photo was taken about 3 years ago and we had such a great time that night. My mom is the life of every party she attends. Her laughter, style and sense of humor is unlike anyone I know. She is the original free spirit. Her DNA has transferred her creativity and youthful spirit throughout all five of her daughters. Although I got her writing skills, there are some days where I wished she'd given me the cooking skills. Lol
The reason why I wanted to do this post is because my mom and I haven't always smiled so beautifully as shown above. Our relationship had its share of emotional turmoil. There were years where we didn't speak. I rarely saw her and had even convinced myself that if she doesn't want to build a bridge, then it was fine with me. That was so not the case.
As it turned out, I blamed my mom for almost everything that went wrong in my life. I was supposed to be a Marine, not a teenage mother going to night school. If only she'd given me the "talk" I would have never lost my virginity and ended up being a victim of domestic violence. But what I didn't realized until my daughter came along, was that my mother did the best that she could with what she knew.
I have to say that as distant as we were, when my marriage failed, my mom was the first person I reached out to. I needed her, and all the wrongs of the past did not matter or exist. I was wounded and I needed someone to tell me that it was going to be okay-that I was going to be okay. She did and I was.
I was broken and she put me back together. Today, our bond is stronger than its ever been and the love and compassionate that we have was something I never knew I was missing until it showed up and filled my heart. I know that my grandmother is dancing in heaven. Just before she passed on, she had asked me to make peace with my mom. At the time, I just couldn't see past the hurt. This is one of the reasons why I preach how the power of forgiveness is truly freeing. And it's truly a gift that you give to yourself.