If you've ever read an Oprah magazine, at the very end, she has an article titled "What I know for sure." It's always about a life lesson that she's learned as she has journeyed through her life and shares with her readers in hopes that you may learn something as well.
Well last night I was reading something from an old journal of mine and I wanted to post it as a food for thought. I don't remember the author but it said, "The success or failure of your relationships strongly depend on how you were fed emotionally as a child." This I know for sure. I also hold it to be true in friendships and working relationships as well. We all have an emotional need to be fed and if it wasn't satisfied as a child, you/we are still seeking to have "someone" fulfill it.
So with that being said, when you find yourself in a situation where the relationship has come to a halt, and you just can't seem to fix it, figure it out or get past the issue(s) at hand. Ask yourself, "How well do you know the person involved?" Another great question to ask is what are you hoping to get in return? A lot of our issues with people have absolutely nothing to do with "the issue." When you take an honest look at the situation, you just might be holding the person accountable for a need that wasn't met from your past. Oftentimes we assume that we really know our partners. If we are constantly changing and discovering ourselves, how can you be so sure you "know" your partner better than they know themselves?
Just something to think about.