Our Boundaries vs. His
There is no unity without distinct identities, and boundaries define the distinct identities involved.
We say yes but we act out no. And he allows us to experience the painful consequences of our behavior so that we will change.
If we are trying to do his work for him, we will fail. If we are wishing for him to do our work for us, he will refuse. But if we do our work, and God does his, we will find strength in a "real relationship" with our Creator.
- An excerpt from the book: Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend
* if only i had known this years ago :-)